Now I would never give up working, I am not that type of person to be a housewife, well I am not even close to having that as an opportunity, not that I would even embrace it, I am/we are providers for our families. But when I had that time at home whilst on maternity leave, I could not bloody wait to get back to work, I love my kid and all, she is a cutie going through that sassy threenager stage, but I need my own time, does that make me a bad Mumma, like fuck it does. I think as women and society we can face a lot of dilemmas, pressure, and prejudice even, women with young kids should stay at home and do the whole Susie home maker crap, sod that I say.
Yes it is hard, and I feel at times a bad parent, because I do not get to spend as much time with my daughter as I would like, but should I, should we not go out there show our babies, that you know what it is good to work, to work for something, be it a mortgage payment, a holiday, god forbid clothes and food. These are the dilemmas that us mothers, single or otherwise can face. But what some do not realise, we have our own dilemmas and demons and it affects us just as much our children
To stay or not to stay
Yes, when returning to work we do face certain difficulties, such as our children being left in someone else care, they teaching them their A, B, C's and 1,2,3's and thinking that is our role as mothers, parents even. But it is good to have that separation and making sure you child is in the right and safe environment, it is good for the both of you. For both mother and child/ren to have that time apart, it only makes the heart grow fonder, plus your kids can get tired of the site of you.
Sacrifice
When we become parents your life changes from the moment, you see PREGNANT on the pregnancy test and you make the decision to become a parent. Me time, we time goes out the window and it all about kid time! We sacrifice, for our children for their love and to keep them happy and the odd occasion when you want a bit of peace and quiet or your program has just come on! We make sacrifices, for the unconditional love between parent and child, hence why even planning on returning or going back into work is a good sacrifice, not a selfish one, after all, we are providers now and a cheeky 8 hour day so you can have a little me time is not a bad thing. But for all the sacrifices we have to makes as parents, they are worth it all in the end. Even if it means a life time of an audience whilst going for a crap.
Am I enough
We can be our own worst enemies at the best of times, we can doubt ourselves and beat ourselves up thinking are we doing, feeding and teaching our kids the right thing. Everyone's teaching and learning life experiences are different, but what you have to understand and yes I included. I am enough for our kids, I mean Leanora thinks I am all that and then some!
With so many dilemmas we face as mothers, they are all worth it in the end and makes us and our children stronger. Have you faced certain dilemmas since becoming a mother, or father? How have you over come those dilemmas?
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Coffee Cups
For those coffee or tea lovers, we all need our little fix in the morning or throughout the day and what better way to keep charged up on the run, then with Stojo. Since becoming a Mumma I have become more aware of recycling and what is going on around me. I meticulously recycle at home and have various bins for everything. But whilst on the run I carry this nifty pocket cup, that is leak proof, collapsible and fun to use reusable coffee cup that comes in various colours, instead of purchasing a single-use cup that will just get tossed.
Wipes
Water wipes are a life saver and have many uses! Be it cleaning off the toothpaste your kids have just covered you in, to snotty noses, to help you keep cool on those hot summer days on the tube, no Mumma can not leave the house without them.
Watch
I never knew the importance of having a watch before, but to keep on top of things, and sometimes technology failing you a watch comes in handy, plus it can certainly add a touch of class to your outfit. With Ice Watches, there are endless designs and styles to keep you looking classy and chic a total no brainer to add the finer details to your outfit.
Portable Charger
with all the Instagramming, Twitter, work emails and calls from your childs school and the other million things that go on through your mobile device, staying charged up to connect us to the world is important and a portable charger something that you will always find in my Mumma Bag.
Bubbles
The juice of the gods comes in the form of Prosecco or lady diesel as I like to call it! After a long day or week, the kids safely tucked in bed, what better way to unwind with a glass or two on a Friday, with your feet up. Prosecco, not your key to happiness than whatever your tipple, make sure you enjoy at least one a week.
Are there things that you can not live without, to help you have a stress free home when working?
London Mumma xx
A
new day a new month, leads to more and new exciting adventures and more
responsibility, but if like me and any normal person with so much going on,
from managing your home life to carting the kids from school to activity to visiting
the dentist, meeting friends and prepping for holidays away, life can get a
bit much and with so much going on you can forget what needs to be done, but
with a little forward planning and a little patience I am going to help you,
myself too with 4 Ways To Get Shi*T Done This Month! Now, lets smash the hell
of this month, but before we do, let's see what we can do to help us get sh*t
done this month.
Stop
procrastinating
We
are all guilty of it, always thinking it can be done later and put off for
another day, then another. But to be able to get sh*t done this month, you are
going to have to change A) your outlook B) your mindset in order to get
organised. So clear your head, stop avoiding what needs to be done and face it
head on, also by changing your mindset will help, so by simply changing your
beliefs and finding a method that works for you, stick to it, that way you are
able to manage your expectations.
Set
a goal
You
know what needs to be done 95% of the time! So why not set yourself manageable
goals! Write a list. Once you have compiled this month's goals, list it all in
importance then work your way from there. Do not get me wrong, life can throw you a curve ball with
unexpected events, be a chameleon, adapt to your surroundings and you will
surely be able to tick off all those goals.
Get
visual
Nothing
better than being able to see what needs to be done, get a wall chart, get
colour coded (I'm a weirdo, I know, I have this!) But being able to see what
needs to be done in a place you spend/pass most often (kitchen) lets you know
what you have to do this month in order to get sh*t done.
Shut
off from social media
Instagram,
Twitter, Facebook, Daily Mail and Pinterest too, the list can go on and on. We
all have are guilty pleasures which have us perusing for hours on end. You may
have the best intention just for a quick 5-minute look, but is it ever REALLY a
5-minute check, nope! My 5 minutes can turn literally into hours, so step away
from the phone ladies and gents I promise it will be there in a few hours (I
think) and keep it moving.
If
you can put into practice these 4 steps each month I promise, these habits will
essentially become that, habits. Leading you to then end result that you set
out to achieve and want.
How
do you get your sh*t done? I would love to hear your comments below!
London Mumma xx
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