Tuesday 17 October 2017

How To Keep Your Individuality When A Single Parent

When you are a single parent, the most important thing that you can do, to be the best single parent that you can be is to keep hold of your identity and personality.

It took me 3 1/2 years to realise that I had lost both my individuality and personality, I mean how did this happen, how did I, the fun-loving party girl, allow herself to become lost and lose this much. Well, simply, parenting took over, everything and everyone myself included took a back seat and parenting for obvious reasons became my driving force.

Being a single parent can be bloody tough, all that you face on your own, from running back and forth on school pickups, making sure your child is happy and healthy, provided for, cared for, you read all the books, buy all the books, that extra pressure as much as you love it, can cost you and that is what it did, it cost me my individuality and personality.

When faced with being a single parent, you can not move without making sure your child's needs and wants come first, gone are the good old days you can pop to the shop, be it for the smallest of things. Take for instance, at home yesterday cooking dinner and realised I had no onions and needed them, I had to wait for 1 hour before Leanora woke just so that we can pop up the road, that little quality time with you and only you do not come round as often as it once did.

So to reclaim me and my power I had to put myself in check, put aside the nighttime nappies, take some time off from the pre-school run and work my feet out of those Mumma essential trainers and let down my hair and rope in some family and friends to help Mumma get her groove back. Now it took me sometime, I was having loads of excuses, I mean I have loads of jobs, after being a parent, so when I do get some free time, I really like to spend it with Leanora on days out, or at home getting the every growing mountain pile of washing done.

Be A Little Bit Selfish
Now, this sounds harsh, but in order to get you back, you gotta be selfish, you put your kids and they will always be 100% your priority, but how can you give them the best you, if you are not recharged, so get  the other parent, family or friends members to give you a night off and be selfish to your babes, for a night out or in!

Get Out With Friends
the best way to find you, is by heading out guys, what better way to feel free and a little like your old self, by meeting up with friends, be it dinner or drinks or both, your head might be a little sore the next day, but your mind will feel great.

Slow Down Rents
Guys, just take it easy, forever running around and mind working overtime, will do you no favours, get organised and do not sweat the small stuff.

Get A Hobby
Be it exercise, which is great, not just for your body, but mind and soul too, plus it is a great way, especially if you take up a class and meet new people! New people, means new friends to connect with.

Are you a single parent, how do you maintain your individuality?


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