We know it’s hard to find a balance with work and dating life, especially when you reach a certain age! Now, in my 30’s and my 40’s fast approaching my outlook on my career and dating life are far more different than that of my 20’s.
My 20’s were fun, I spent it running wild and free with one guy, until it no longer worked out, to heartbroken and angry to give others a try, I was content, to be free and single and that suited me just fine, fast forward a few years later I decide to focus on my career, my daughter and Milo I was not interested in settling down but building a good foundation around us, plus I love my independence.
Recently I woke up in the middle of the night crying, me crying can you bloody believe it, not bawling, but a little tears! I’m far for the emotional type, but I thought of a guy who I loved, I mean truly loved, like the moment I saw him lost for words love, but that too due to cultural differences it was not destined to happen. it got me thinking and speaking to my bestie for a bit of support, he turned and said to me Lind’s, you’ve got beautiful daughter, career on the up, you give your time to everything but you and in fairness he was not wrong, but can it be done, I mean, be a single parent who works full time, who spends her weekends ferrying her kid from activity to party, to laundry and homework and everything in between can I dare wonder if I could actually have a home, work life and dare I say it dating balance?
Read on to find out how I and you can find that perfect equilibrium between work and dating.
Make the time
We all have busy life’s, and busy days but who says that you don’t have the time! Forget making excuses and shoulda, coulda, woulda’s, make the time for you and what you want to do.
Stay present
Yes we are ambitious and it’s super easy to get swept up in your own thoughts of what should, could of been done, but be it at work or on a date stay present in the here and now.
Evaluate priorities
We all have them, but the first should be you, I’m not saying to neglect anyone or anything but put things into perspective and priories what is important right now for you and what and who is around you, how else, will you be able to achieve those goals.
Set boundaries
There is a time and a place for everything and everyone. Nothing wrong with keeping work and personal life separate, no one has to combine the two or even share the two, remember it’s your playing field.
Have fun
So easy to forget to do, I’m all serious in my 30’s, but serious is not fun, well not all the time, so live a little and step out of our comfort zone and simply enjoy it! A great way to have fun for those older or over 50s dating sites, can be a lot of fun, check out older-dating.com.
Don’t negotiate
Rule number one, your a boss, a girl boss, I know what I want and I work hard for it, so no more negotiating on my time and spending it with someone that simply is not worth it!
Ditch the rules
We’ve all heard the rules, but are there really any dating rules that work? I think not! I’m old and mature enough now to know what I want and what works for me! Instead of over thinking it connect with the person meaningfully you will get a better result.
Have a set time
It’s easy to get carried away at work, you want to leave with a clear inbox and before you know it it’s midnight! A great way to have a set time and stick to it, is by making a to-do list, prioritise what’s important, what you need to get done and work your hardest to stick to it.
You need your own life
Yes we’re are ambitious, career and family minded, but in order to enjoy those things and have a healthy balance of everything, it’s super important to have your own life, meet up with friends, giggle, gossip, shop and simply catch up, to going out and meeting up with that someone and even doing something just for, be it a hot bath to going to the gym and getting in on a class. You have to remember to have your own life you only get one after all so make the most of it.
How do you maintain a healthy work-life balance, let me know in the comments below!
Lindsey
Disclaimer: This is a collaborative post!
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With a little forward planning, there are 4 easy ways to successfully keep yourself organised at work and helping you manage your time at home when working. Don't get me wrong I am human I am still trying to master it daily, but with a few little things that I have put in practice, I find that it does certainly help me to be more successful and organised at work.
Today I wanted to share 4 ways to successfully be organised at work.
Work on route
To ease some pressure of your daily work load, why not get a head start on yourself and use that time whilst travelling to and from work and work meetings wisely, and get some work done. You will be amazed at how much you can achieve in that travelling time.
Schedule your phone
You always have your phone to hand, no matter where you are, so why not use the hell out of it, get scheduling and use your calendar effectively, therefore, freeing up actual free time and helping you and your time becoming more organised.
Start with the hard jobs
With a heavy work load and loads of tasks at hand, start with the harder jobs that require your attention immediately, organise what needs to be done and when completed you find that A) you inbox is more organised and manageable B) you become less stressed as the harder tasks are completed and freeing up your time to organise your working area and the following day.
Clean workspace
Clear space, clear mind. Cluttered workspace, cluttered mind, which leads to chaos and progress can slow down and that is not what you want to achieve. So being proactive and getting yourself and your working area and environment organised will help you achieve order.
Personally, you can never be too organised, like I said previously not that I am 100% organised all the time, but it does certainly help me and my working life.
How do you keep yourself organised at work, what are your tricks? I would love to hear in the comments below.
London Mumma xx
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