A couple of years ago, no one would of envisioned what this past year in a half would of brought to the world. With lock down easing in a few days, everything opening up, which I’m so excited about that I can’t figure out if I will be getting my hair, nails or eyebrows done, but what I do know is, that so will my dating life.
During the pandemic it’s been a little harder to find love, true genuine love. Whilst it’s been great speaking to people via messages, it’s the natural face to face connection that’s been missing nor do I mean a physical one.
Social distancing still firmly in place now, and with in reason, dating during this pandemic doesn’t have to be a bore but exciting. I think this is a really great time to genuinely get to know someone, have a more emotional connection rather than a physical one, after all, we have a life time to get to that part.
I find, really getting to know someone more attractive, now being older and a parent and hopefully a little wiser! Gone are my somewhat wild ways, I’m now looking to settle down, hopefully with the one.
I am starting to find that one online dating can be great, adventurous and very fun, there are loads of free dating sites, apps you name it, all at the touch of your finger tips.
I find online dating a lot more safer and easier, you can go online from the comfort of your own home, a little bored whilst on the commute to work, even a little cheeky look whilst on your lunch break or if you really want to be a bit mischievous you could be bound for an Oxfordshire Dating meet up. The world is your oyster, and virtual dating is perfect to help connect you with other singles from all over the country, to even a little closer to home.
Regardless if it works out or not, just have fun with it and take each experience as it comes.
Before I used to over analyse everything, to what I am going to wear, the polish on my nails, location, longevity of the date, to even how my date was gonna turn up!! Pre pandemic problems am I right! Now no more of that, I think we’ve all had enough to deal with during these times, now time to simply let go of all those things that really and truly do not matter and focus on what does and what you are looking for and want.
Just remember guys, dating should be fun whilst meeting new people, never settle and who knows you may end up with a second date.
Let me know your thoughts and your experiences of dating during the pandemic, how have you found it and any highs or lows, did you find the perfect one for you? Let me know in the comments below.
Be safe & well.
Lindsey
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We’re well aware that I am back on the dating scene, whilst with this grey wet weather I’d rather be in my sweats, but thinking about it dashing in this rain to meet a date could be very fun and quite exciting and it’s feels like it could be off a scene from sex and the city, just not looking like wet mess.
If you want to start dating, get out there to meet that special someone or simply meet new people, you gotta work at it! I’m the type of person that I can easily put myself off and talk myself out of doing something, it’s a pet peeve of mine! Once out there and on route I feel stupid even thinking why did I talk myself out of it, not only do I get to go on a date and see if I have a connection with someone, I’m also out of the house not in sweats and kid free evening, so if it doesn’t work out I can leave the date early, grab some pasta and prawns a nice bottle of wine and scoff the lot on the sofa whilst watching a movie.
I have fallen in love with the area that I live all over again and I find that I am enjoying meeting my dates in and around the area, not only does it mean less travelling, I also get to spend more time getting to know that person, the added bonus is that I get to eat out in my area which is perfect as there is always something new popping up.
No matter where you live what’s better than dating in your area, there loads to do in your area and great sites too see and explore, such as Love Shropshire Singles to Love Devon Singles! Yes don’t worry there are some in London too. But imagine out in Devon Dating that beautiful scenery and idyllic beaches you can get to explore or have a picnic date on, but not only are these sites solely for Shropshire dating site you can meet friends too.
If you find that you’ve out grown the apps and dating sites, I can’t stress enough the treasure trove that is your area! You are absolutely guaranteed to meet people on a night out with work colleagues on a Friday night or on a brunch date with friends. Shaking up your normal routine is great way to get you out there mingling and meeting new people, to even taking up a new hobby in your area to joining your local gym and definitely say yes to social events and new opportunities how else are you going to meet someone be it for a relationship or someone that you can flirt and have drinks with.
A few weeks ago I went speed dating, yes that is still a thing, can you believe! It was the funniest of nights that i have had in a long time, unfortunately I did not meet anyone but I did have a great night with friends over a few cocktails and nibbles and toasting to new dating adventures.
Lindsey
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Dating long distance can be hard, whilst it can be fun because you can travel and see outside your post code and visit new sites with a loving companion it’s not always feesable and can even cause a strain on our relationship.
As you know I’ve been dipping back my toe in the dating pool and I have recently started dating a friend who did just live a little too far, whilst he is a great guy he is just not a local guy! I mean yeah I’m busy with being a parent and working full time So I would not of been able to spend as much time together as we would like, it did get me thinking would it really last and was this fledging relationship worth it for one another.
We met at a friends party overseas and always kept in touch. It can seem like a fairly tale at the best of times, knowing you are out of town spending quality time with a new person having fun exploring somewhere completely different and leaving all worries behind. The best part was bringing in my suitcase to the office on Friday itching to get out of work and whisked off for a romantic adventure, I literally did no work over the period we were dating on a Friday, just could not get my head into the game, all I could think about is heading out for dinner and picking and deciding where we were going to eat, lunch the next day to our boozy afternoons spent people watching in the pub before a long walk by the river and heading home to get changed to party the night away.
Sunday’s were hard, I felt utterly heartbroken, I think more for the sake of my own sense of freedom that I craved as well as spending time with someone I cared about, but by the time I got home it got me thinking is this what I want a weekend here and there stolen on or something more solid and close to home, did I want to date someone so far away?????
Clearly not, as we both came to a mutual understanding, but we are still great friends and think we are better off this way than in a dating relationship that was too long distance for either of us.
So back to the drawing board and back on the dating sites, something a little more close to home and there I search for a London dating site. Keeping it close to home not only saves you that extra cash to get a few more extra drinks in or order a double portion of calamari to even getting you that new dress you also get to realise how many singles there are in London, who doesn’t Love London Singles!
I can happily inform you that I’m back on the sites and I have a friend who just moved and he too is on his local Buckinghamshire dating sites so know matter where you are in the country you can find Love Buckingham Singles to you lovely London Singles too.
Have you guys ever dated long distance, did it work for you or maybe not, even would you do it again travel the world to see that someone
Lindsey
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Us driven career women, can find it hard to balance a work and dating relationship, especially when we are focused and ambitious and want our careers to thrive and that’s an amazing thing, but us career minded women can forget to step away from the career woman and become a fun loving dating woman.
It’s so easy to get wrapped up in your career, especially when you are doing something that you are very passionate about, trust me I’m there, but you also have to unwind and let yourself go and find that perfect equilibrium.
Our potential suitors can at times find it a little tricky, intimidating easily! But trust me there is nothing sexier in a man or woman who is strong, focused and knows what they want in their personal life as well as there career, sure we all need a little guidance and become over obsessed with our career and have tunnel vision, but don’t forget to be proud of what you have achieved as there is so much more from your career to dating and meeting new people.
This year I’ve decided to make a few resolutions to keep me on track and well balanced out and to remember it’s not all work, work, it will be there tomorrow and go out have fun, unwind and meet new people and find that perfect one, doesn’t matter your age there are so many platforms that you can sign up to such as silver-dating.com, also via an abundance of apps and to senior dating site there are a lot of choice from you to pick from to have an awesome work and dating life balance.
You need a second life
Step away from that laptop, yep close it! There is so much more than that screen, get out and explore the world, whilst you may have your dream job already or possibly working towards that promotion you need to have that dream life too.
Unwind
No matter what you do at work today, it will always be there to come back to tomorrow. Spend that quality time investing in you and your relationship and spend that time to unwind with someone you care about.
Prioritise
We’ve got this far and you are doing an amazing job, but prioritise time for you, work and your relationships outside the office, you don’t want to burn yourself out if you have to when it comes to work ask for help!
Health is wealth
In order to be the best productive you, you need to take care of you, no point turning up to work frazzled over worked and stressed out, to rocking up on that date and your head is elsewhere. Be kind to yourself, your mind body and soul! Come lunch take some time to step out of the office, take a walk, grab some food, or if you can get in a work out in your lunch break , or simply take sometime out to meditate to help clear your mind! No excuses you can ever. Do it after work and take some needed time for you.
Get social
Don’t forget to fit in your friendships, arrange some dinner and drink events to meet and catch up with old friends, I am sure enough that you’ll meet new friends and potential new suitors when your out.
Overall to have that perfect balance is to make sure you are happy and healthy, once there everything will fall into place and you will achieve that perfect all round balance.
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Lindsey
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Do you find yourself dipping in and out, jumping from one dating app to the other!!? Me too! Never sure which one you’ll find your perfect match on who has swiped you back, or maybe so and it’s not worked out or maybe it has.
2020 a brand new year, a brand new you and for me I’m going to change my dating habits and be a little more proactive in hopes of finding the one. But where to start, can be the tricky thing.
With a New Year comes New Year resolutions which can easily be applied to our dating habits
Get Appy
Well Match Me Happy is what I say, whilst free dating apps have had a bad rep, due to unsolicited emails, to well out there lies which is easily noticeable on that first date, but the whole part about being single and wanting to get out there and date is all about being willing to be open in meeting new people, so putting a little more effort and time in to the app world.
Take A Chance & Slide
Slide in to someone’s DM’s whilst some may feel it’s preposterous, heck I do! But I am gonna put my big girl pants on and say hey! You never know it could work out, so if you see what you like, take a chance. (is it me or do you feel an ABBA song is about to come on??)
Build That Confidence
Confidence is key when it comes to dating. When you are out of it for a while, who knows where to start, but by picking up messaging someone and downloading the app, starting a conversation is a great way to build your confidence and with each date and conversation it gets easier.
Get You Priorities straight
Get You Priorities straight
I mean first and foremost I’m a mother and in my mid 30’s! By now I know what I want and what I am looking for and what to not waste my time on, my priorities and yours are what’s important, to dating a shed load, to waning quality time to myself or with my family, don’t forget to put you first, after all there is only one you, take care of you and everything else will fall into its place.
Get Dating Advice
Get Dating Advice
We all have a bunch of friends we can talk to and be frank with and we all have that one friend or two that are serial daters and multi-date well! By speaking with your friends it’s a great way on getting tips on the dating world and i guarantee you everyone has a different nugget of advice to offer you
Hang out
Hang out
Not gonna meet someone sitting on tosh now am I, so go hangout with friends at the bar, go for dinner meet and talk to people, super easy to just limit yourself to dating apps, but once you’ve swiped one you’ve swiped them all! Plus it will also take you out of your area, so if you wanna get swiping you’ll be able to meet that new some and fresh meat on the app
Have you got any New Year dating resolutions or tips, let me know in the comments below!
Have you got any New Year dating resolutions or tips, let me know in the comments below!
Lindsey
Yeah, I know....dating, such a funny word, a little scary at times, but I’m ready to get back into it! A few years after Leanora was born I dated a few people, nothing serious, I then dated someone, when I was ready to get serious, but found that he was not serious or more to the point he wasn’t anything, be it serious about life or anything really, but as sweet and caring as he was, sweet and caring doesn’t cut it really, not with me, whilst I want to meet a sweet and caring person, I also want or like, someone that is ambitious and has a strong and funny personality, but whilst I have the notions of a weird science creation am I looking for someone that is not real or am I simply not ready to date and therefore my expectations are just too far fetched?!
Recently dipping my toe back into the dating game, I've been a bit brave and checked out some dating websites, downloaded a few apps and it took me ages to set up all my new profiles, it is about finding the right pic, then second guessing yourself if they are even the rights pics and do not even get me started on my profile, I mean where do you even begin, to get yourself out there, be it seen as funny, whilst wanting to be taken seriously and come over dare I say it, sexy, but not slutty! There is a fine line and I think I've found a perfect balance, all whilst staying true to myself.
The question is where do you start, you hear of so many successes of people who have found the one, but with so many dating websites and apps or at Lviv Stag, and I've tried most if not all from Tinder, Bumble and now Hinge it can be really tough. I did, however, end up connecting to one person, one, in particular, a guy that ended up being based in New York, I learnt my lesson real quick and just sticking to those in my demographic area instead of opening up my search worldwide, I'll be sticking to dating sites uk.
I have only been on a very few amounts of dates, some have been fun, others a little bit more of a nightmare, what I have enjoyed most about it all is the build up the conversation and just putting myself out there again. To be truthful I did not think it possible, I became so wrapped up in becoming a good parent, homeowner, colleague and trying to get my business out there, I did not think I had time or felt it was even right to date, but I am making the time, because why would I not want to meet someone new. Whilst it can be hard it is about finding a balance as well as having a little something for you and your own wellbeing or simply just to have fun and let yourself go a little and it is all about being open to new people, new adventures, plus I think I am now ready to start going out more, I mean I can not live and hope I'll find the right one online, I'll be heading out there too, I mean not in bars, but i;ll be keeping my eye open you never know I could meet someone whilst feeling like I'm going to crumble in my next HIIT class, if I do, I pray they are quick enough and strong to catch me if I fall.
How are you finding dating, have you meet someone online or in a work out class? I'd love to hear your dating tips in the comments below.
Lindsey
Dating tips for the single parent...... what is that, is it a thing, but contrary mon frere I believe it is a thing, very much a big thing.
Valentines less than a few weeks away, we all dream of wanting someone to cosy up too, and I'm not talking about the kids.
Myself new to the dating scene, I felt like it was alien, like where do I go, how do I do this, what is doing this, further more am I too frickin old, err NO, this gal is in her prime, besides your never too old, granted a few greys, nothing that hair dye won't sort, dark circles under the eye, check, Bobbi Brown concealer will sort it, so why all the worry, so I decided to take the plunge and dip my toes in.
Be honest about the fact that you have a child
Honesty is always the best policy. However I do certainly believe that you should not unload too much information straight away, you want to keep an air of mystery about yourself, keep the person on their toes and guessing. Nothing is sexier than hiding or should I say being aloof to keep them interested and wanting to know more about you.
Enjoy your time with another adult
I used to fret all the time before I went on my first date about my daughter, is it the right time to leave her, will she be ok, should I not be spending this time with her. The answer is, yes, yes, no, because I spend all my time with her, and she sees me every day, where is my time to feel normal. I did feel like after I had Leanora, I lost me in the parenting world, my life obviously is dedicated to her, but what about little old me, which is not healthy, a little time apart and spending time with someone else is good for us.
Be positive about dating
No one wants to date a negative nancy, so throw caution to the wind, let your hair down and simply have fun. Don't get me wrong, not every date that you go on will be great, I've had my fair few where it turned out horrible and I've made my excuses and ran off (thank god I have a child) but not all dates are terrible, you will know the good ones within minutes, so be positive talk about the, you and have a laugh.
Do not rush introducing your child
A big no, no for me. This is something that you have to be very careful about, A you are still getting to know this new person, you do not know if it is going to work out, give it 6 months to a year. B do you really think it is healthy to have your child meet someone so soon?
Costs
Bloody hell, dating can become quite costly, especially when you have babysitter fees to pay, so don't forget to factor that all in, but luckily I live in a bustling city, here in London there is so much to see and do and restaurants to visit Together with Angelic Diamonds, retailers of bespoke palladium engagement rings, we advise you on making the most of your date no matter where you are in the world.
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